Saturday, May 14, 2016

Fat? Who Me? Have you ever been fat shamed?

I was in a forum the other day and one guy mentioned about how one of his friends got body shamed by two total strangers in public. For obvious reasons she got upset and cried. 

Body shaming is defined as inappropriate negative statements and attitudes toward another person's weight or size. Or you can simply say shaming someone for their body type.

Really? People should be ashamed of what size they are?

And who gets to decide the standards that we use as the "ideal ones"?

The best thing about human beings is that we keep on advancing on everything, whether be in the field of medicine or technology, and even body shaming. Body shaming is no longer limited to shaming overweight/obese people. There are a variety of body shaming. For instance, female athletes are now being muscle shamed! Thin people get shamed for being too "skinny". Body builder men get shamed for having too much muscle. And then we have the dad bod shaming; the type which is not overweight but not too fit either. Vin Diesel was recently put in the category of "dad bod"! Yeah, that's right. I must say, we're truly evolving! Still wondering what the ideal body type is, btw, because it seems every body type is being body shamed.

And what do get by body shaming others? Do we try to fit in a group? Or try to feel good about ourselves? In my opinion, any group that masters in activities like body shaming is totally a shitty group. Get the hell away from them! And if you do it to feel good about yourself, then dude, first of all, you're a douche, and second of all, spend the time you waste on judging people on developing your qualities. That way you'll actually be a better person.

I read somewhere that obese people are more depressed, lack self-worth, have no self control and suffer from more emotional ups and downs. Well, of course a person will suffer from all these things if they're being bombarded with negative comments all the time! Duh! I would. You would. Anyone would! We're just humans.
Have you ever been fat shamed?

Obese people get bullied all the time. We don't need researches done to prove that. It's so common that we all must have seen that happening around us, or with us if you were or are an obese/overweight/chubby person. Kids can be mean, and so can adults.

Our habit of assuming things sucks!


Assuming things about others is one major problem why obese people have to through a lot of difficulties. According to a research, people "think" that fat people are lazy, socially awkward and unclean. People were shown 5 pictures of 5 different models. Thin people were perceived to be attractive, independent, intelligent, friendly and likable. On the other hand obese people got negatively rated on 9 out of 15 traits. It has also been found that women who were 13 pound overweight were earning $9000 less than average-weight women. And very heavy weight women earned $19000 less! That's a huge amount. And let me mention, the researchers had clearly mentioned that it has nothing to do with education level. Apparently, the employers also try to hide obese employees, when it comes meeting with people/clients. To me, it's kind of indirect body shaming.

It's funny how we assume things about others without even knowing them. And it's ridiculous how people think that bigger body size equals less talent.

I've met some really amazing overweight/obese people. They are the most confident people ever, have the best sense of humor and they make amazing friends. You gotta be polite with people and give them a chance to show you who they really are. You'll be amazed a lot of the time.

Social media's giving us complex too!


Social media is another bitch. Too many people showing off their bum bums on the internet! We buy whatever social media tells us is right and we don't even once question it, especially the teens. Tumblr and Instagram is full of people with "perfect bodies". Seriously. And I'd be lying if I say I never felt insecure after seeing something on the internet.  It's great you have a nice body and since it's yours, you can totally show it off the way you like. It is also okay to feel insecure; that's human nature. But while admiring other people's perfect bosom, we shouldn't underestimate our own package. Your chubby body might be goals for someone else. You never know. Not everyone dreams to be a zero figure.

I've been an overweight my whole life. I've been called fat and I was the fat kid of my class. But to be honest (and I'm not just saying it), I never felt bad about myself for that reason. And really that's no reason to be ashamed of. I did lose a lot of weight when I left for college and started living in hostel. Anyone who has ever lived in a hostel will know what I'm talking about. But I still am chubby. And I love it! Twisted? Nah, not to me! I rather be chubby than skinny. Being an overweight was never a drawback to me, and it still isn't.


Now, of course, I believe that everyone should eat healthy and do some amount of exercise to stay healthy. Of course there are some health related drawbacks that comes with high level of body fat. You want to lose weight and be more healthy? Do it. But do it for yourself; not because your boyfriend asked you to.


My letters:


My letter to all the awesome chubby people out there:


Dear chubby people, 
You don't have to be the sad panda here! There's nothing to be ashamed of. You don't have to feel bad about yourself. What you need to do is, in fact, first of all, get rid of the people who don't treat you with love and doesn't support you. If your boyfriend tells you to lose weight, honey, you need a new boyfriend. If your friends make fun of you all the time, lose them. Do it. For the sake of your health. 
Number two: Fat is NOT equal to ugly. Believe me. 
Number three: Don't be sorry for who you are. Make it very clear to everyone around you. This is you and you should love yourself.
Number four: Show people you're more than just a body. Don't try to hide in the shell you created to protect yourself from the bullies. Like I've mentioned already, I've met some really awesome overweight people in my life (I myself am one, *winks*).  Show people what an amazing person you are through your personality. Make them see what you have to offer, and what they were missing being ignorant, by being yourself. Don't care what others will think and don't let anyone break down your confidence. 
And remember, self-worth does not comes from your dress size. 
We can never be perfect for everyone. No matter how good you look or how amazing your personality is, people will always try to belittle you. Try not give an "eff" about it! 
Be proud of your thunder thighs! 
If someone calls you a "dad bod", tell them that's the category Vin Diesel belongs to too! 
And if someone calls you fat, tell them kiss your fat ass! 
Love,
Quirky Writes

My letter to all the body shamers:


Dear body shamers, 
Back off!
Sincerly,
Quirky Writes.

Remember, the ideal body for you is the body you're in right now. Cherish it.

And another thing is, we can achieve so much by being ourselves. All we have to do is accept ourselves for who we are and go from there. Haters don't even matter, honeybun.

We got to stop being judgmental about others if we want to make this world a better place.

And by the way, do you know how Gabourey Sidibe responded to all the body shaming comments she got for her 2014 Golden Globes? She said: "I most definitely cried about it on that private jet on my way to my dream job last night". That's how you deal with the haters like a boss!

So, have you ever been fat shamed? Or have you ever body shamed someone? Don't worry we won't be judgmental. Everyone has a past!

Checkout this awesome book: Fat! So? 

4 comments:

  1. Well said... Completely agree with the perception part!
    I think everyone's body type is different. We should accept the imperfections...

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    1. Right. If we could just stop assuming and give respect to every single human being.

      Thanks for stopping by! :)

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  2. Social media and the need for validation has serious repercussions. Be yourself. Shed weight to be healthy and not to be a part of this mad race. And, for everybody out there, respect every one.

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