Monday, December 26, 2016

Do you care what others think about you? Well, I've got reasons why you shouldn't

December 26, 2016 0 Comments


All those who are guilty of not doing something they love or want to do just because they were scared of what others will think raise your hand. Okay, don't lie to yourself, I know you're as guilty as I am.
For me- however- that's the past, thankfully, but what about you? Do you still give a shit what others think about you? If you do then, my next question is simple: why?
Why does what others think about us bother us? And that too so much that we're willing to sacrifice our happiness? Is it really worth it? 


This fear of not receiving approval from others has been passed down to us from our ancestors. Back in the days when people used to live among wild animals, the tribe was the other name of survival. The better "behaved" you are, the better would be your position in the tribe. So, yeah, they cared what others think about them for their better survival. They had valid reason.
But it's not the case anymore because we all know who's more dangerous to whom, and who's causing whose extinction. So I think there's no need to be scared of the wild animals anymore. But unfortunately the same belief that "we should care about what others think" has been passed down to us. I guess we forgot to evolve our thinking. 

1. This life is way too short to care what others think:

Cliché quote but it's true. If you'll keep on worrying about what others think you'll never be able to do anything that you really want to do. Remember that bucket list you made? All the crazy stuff you wanna do? You'll never be able to put that check mark in front of your desire in the list if you'll think that people will call you crazy. You'll never find out what you're capable of. You'll never find out how much you can improve and what you can achieve. We've got one life and we better make it wonderful by living it the way we want to, because in the end, you don't want to be left alone with regrets. Do you?

Besides, do you have any idea how many more people will look up to you for inspiration, once you start? Why not focus on such people? Those who act don't think about what other people's opinion about them are. They just act.

2. Others don't know what you want:

People might tell you things like do this or do that, or don't do this or don't do that. Maybe it's right from their point of view. But they don't know the whole back story. Their perception is based on the superficial things they saw. And a lot of the times their "perception" is false, because -- they don't know the whole back story.

No one, other than you, knows your situation; how you feel, what you need to do, how certain things are affecting you, and hence, they for sure do not know what's good for you. So if someone is being judgmental about any of your decisions, well, it's not your problem. You did what was best for you.

3. You can't please everyone:

Another cliché sentence but again, it's true. Just think and tell: Can you? No you can't. 

There are people who are "pathologically judgmental" who will judge you in the most negative way possible no matter what you do. Their opinion is not honest or fruitful at all, because they are, in general, very negative beings. I think even flowers don't bloom in their yard, because their negativity is killing them.

Then there are the envious people who themselves don't do anything because they're too lazy to start (or just too worried about what other's will think 😉) and don't want to see others do something either. They don't want you to fulfill your desires as they couldn't themselves. 

The third kind of people are the ones who accidentally get hurt in the process of achieving something. Don't worry about them either. They are selfish, and don't care about you anyway.

The last group is the one who love and support you. Think about these people because they are the only ones you should be caring about. They will guide you in the right direction.

Besides, what is the worst thing possible that will happen? A few people will talk about it for some time and then they'll get a new topic to gossip about. That's about it. That's what happens. They are killing their time in doing useless gossips; that's their damage. What's the damage for you? Nothing!

4. People don't care:

This is what mostly happens. People simply don't care what you're doing. Most of the times it's our own fear of "being watched by others" what stops us. Well, let me tell you something, people have got better things to do in their own lives than to sit and watch what you are doing. They all have pretty busy lives. So just chill, go ahead and do the crazy. Nobody's watching. And so what even if they were!? They're too busy with their iphones to react anyway!




1. Don't let the thought that "someone is watching and judging me right now" cross you mind. Just think even if someone is watching me so what? Let them watch. I ain't got no time and energy to know what they're thinking about me.

2. You don't need to give a justification for your actions to others. You did it because it's good for you. Period.

3. Make a good habit of not judging others. The idea is simple: if you'll keep on judging others, the thought of someone else judging you will definitely cross your mind; because that's what you're doing so why can't someone else do that to you. So, STOP!

4. Cut off all the negatives.Stay away from all those crappy people; whether a friend or family, who always try to pull you down. Just know one thing that such people do not want you to achieve things.

5. And lastly, if people say things like "you suck", I have only two words for them: Screw them!


Why would you stop caring what others say? The answers is simple: to be happy. Need I say more? Isn't that a big enough reason? If you wanna be happy, don't give a damn. It is as simple as that!
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 I don't care what you think about me. I don't think about you at all.  -Coco Chanel

Friday, October 14, 2016

How To Improve Concentration While Studying

October 14, 2016 0 Comments

Sometimes it takes a bit of an extra effort to soak up the information while you're studying because you can't damn concentrate. Is that a problem for you too, or is it just me? Am I the only one who suck? Naah, I know I'm not the only sucker, suckers!

Anyway, so since you and me; we both have issues on this topic let's see what we can do about it.

Here are a few things that you can do:

1. Self-control: 

That's no brainer. If you wanna study you need to make up your mind first. Be determined that you are gonna study the hell out today. If random ideas pop in your head and try to lure you out of the deal, treat them like a mortal enemy and tell them "get the hell out of my way or I'mma light saber you down, bitch".

Leave rest of the shit to deal with later.


2. Say bye to technology:

Throw away your phone in the back of your cupboard or something, lock it and swallow the key. Yeah, if that helps you stay concentrated, do that. The world won't end if you'll check your messages 1 hour later. 

Put away even your laptop. Use it if it's absolutely necessary; say, to check something on wikipedia. 

No excuses to self. Nothing like "I'll watch this episode of Big Bang Theory and then I'll start". NO! Because you know it never ends with one episode.


Lol. I love the show!

3. Find an appropriate place:

Now this not necessarily have to be a big separate room with a beautiful view outside the window. Not everyone's life is like tumblr. Everyone has different study spot: it could be your room, your dining table, your garden or even a coffee shop! If you like change of view, you can change your study spot in every few hours.

Similarly, some like to sit on table, and some walk and study. Some people concentrate better with pin drop silence and some listens to music. Some do silent reading, and some like to scream the words out. Now, none of these are abnormal behaviour. And no matter how weird it appears to another person, do whatever works for you.

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Good use of attic, huh. But remember, you don't have to have a fancy place like this.

4. Exercise: 

Let's look at the science of it: exercise releases brain-derived neurotrophic factor (BDNF), which is an important factor memory, concentration and mental sharpness. BDNF rewires the circuit of memory and makes them work better. When you exercise, you use more brain cells, and this in turn results in the secretion of BDNF.

Harvard Medical School advices you to workout at least 5 out 7 days a week for effective production of BDNF. Bad new to the lazy people who don't exercise or exercise for like twice a year- you can't find a pill for this substance and only brain produces it. And working out once in a while won't help either. You gotta exercise regularly to stimulate its release.

So, that's why they say. "exercise"!

Now, grab your shoes and go for a run.


But not like this!

5. Plan it out, set a goal:

Plan out what you need to study each day. For example, study 4 topics today. Take break after you finish each topic or every 1 hourly or so, depending upon your threshold and the length of the topic. Set a time period in which you need to complete the topic, set a timer. You can involve a friend and kind of compete; who finishes first. 

After you finish one topic, treat yourself with something good like maybe an episode of the big bang theory or maybe check out facebook for some time or eat something your really like.

You can discuss and study too. But make sure you don't end up gossiping about the latest episode of Game of Thrones. Duh. That's what happens mostly, I know.

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6. Snacking and staying hydrated:

Don't forget to snack! Your brain needs a constant supply of glucose for adequate functioning. Also, drink plenty of water. Dehydration affects your mental state, more than you think.

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7. Chill, dude!:

Don't stress out. Chill. If you're stressing out too much, thinking negatively about the exam constantly, you're never going to be able to concentrate. It's an exam and you got it. You'll do just fine. Just make sure you don't leave everything for the last minute to avoid freaking out. Yeah, we all been there.

If you start to panic: put your pen down and take 3 deep breathes. Go slowly and steadily, and you'll be fine.

Remember, the world isn't ending.

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I hope you find these simple tips useful. Study well. 
See ya soon.
Peace out.


Monday, August 1, 2016

I Am A Metalhead

August 01, 2016 0 Comments


I am a girl, and yep, I am a metalhead. 

Metal for passion. Not for fashion.


No, my collection of metal music does not belong to my boyfriend.
No, metal is not something that only men enjoy.
I am not violent or angry.
No, I don't always head-band when I listen to metal music. I do my own little weird dance though. You can't just sit still when you listen to metal: Fact!
I don't have un-naturally straightened black long hair. Okay, I do have long black hair but that's my natural hair.
I don't dress revealing.
I'm not weird...well, maybe a little bit but nothing that people around me can't handle.
I don't always wear black.
I don't do drugs, never done it ever in my life.
I'm not an uneducated psychopath.
I am not a party animal.
I'm not a goth.
I don't hate everybody.
I don't have any piercing or tattoo anywhere in my body.
I am not creepy.
I am not crazy about bikes.
I am not evil.
And I do not worship Satan!

If metal music is a work of Satan, then the devil has a great taste in music!
Confused? I know what you're thinking. You think I am not a real metalhead. Most probably because I don't look and behave how a stereotypical metalhead looks and behaves. Right?

I am the normalest of the normal. I know that's not a real term, BTW. If you see me you can never imagine that I listen to such rock music because we are so typically stereotyped as something dark and evil. Metal is the only genre of music that is often perceived to be related with something bad. Huh, I wonder why. However, in reality, it is not.

And let me mention that I don't care about how people label us. Everybody has the right to have an opinion. I'm not writing this post out of hate. I'm writing this post for a little bit of enlightenment. I'm damn sure many of you have stereotyped opinions about metalheads just because that is what you have "heard" about metalheads.

Metalheads are actually softies. We are nice people. We are well educated and responsible. We have goals in our lives. We're just like anyone else who listens to any other type of genre.

I do listen to other types of music genre. Come on! Who listens to a single genre? But it is metal music that I can relate to the most. And I do listen to metal whenever I'm listening to music. I appreciate all types of music. If the music speaks to me I will listen to it, irrespective of who the artist is and what genre the music belongs to.

I don't always wear black. But if a metalhead does wear black what's wrong in that? Black is a nice colour.

Metal is definitely not for angry people. Metal is therapeutic to me. Whenever I'm sad or angry or happy I turn to metal. It helps me. Metal makes me feel all sorts of emotions that are out there, just like any other type of music. 

Every metal is not death metal. There are a wide variety of metal, one of them is death metal.

The lyrical content of metal is actually relatable with life. It talks about all sorts of situations. I think that's the reason I love it.

Did you know metalheads and classical music fans have similar personalities? No I'm not making this up, it has been suggested by a study. Now I'd like to quote the following statement from the study "Metal fans, like classical listeners, tend to be creative, gentle people, at ease with themselves. We think the answer is that both types of music, classical and heavy metal, have something of the spiritual about them — they're very dramatic — a lot happens".

And there are several other studies that suggests that metalheads are happier overall. Like I said metal is not for angry people. Also, metalheads are brainier. Well, it does take an effort to understand it.

Metal music is not just screaming. Screamo is the term used now-a-days. One day I told one of my friends that I like metal, and she didn't know what metal music meant (metal is not that popular in my country) so one of my other friends jumped in the conversation and said "you know, the music where people only scream".  I've also read online that people think that creating metal music is easy because it's just screaming and no one can understand. Okay, so it's true that screaming is a huge part of metal but metal is not only about screaming. And I bet it's definitely not easy. I'm not a singer but try screaming and singing at the same time. Or try to play drums that fast or play guitar that way.

You tell me you can't understand the lyrics, I say the music speaks too. There's emotion in those drum beats. Music can stand on its own. Besides, you like those hit songs with shitty lyrics on loop. You like those really violent rap songs that disrespects women or talks about being a gangster. But then you say metal is violent?

Metal is viewed as the worst, most violent genre, but is probably the most loving, caring, understanding genre there is.


Don't think that the boy is not good enough for your daughter just because he's into metal music. Don't think that a female metalhead is a whore. Just because a person is wearing a band's T-shirt and have long hair and a goatee that doesn't mean he's a criminal. And just because someone's listening loud music that doesn't mean that he/she's a crack addict.

I've admired every single metalhead I've ever met. They all were nice people. They are very open minded and you can trust on them. They are actually very sweet, and they sure would help you out if you reach out to them for help.

Now, exceptions are always there, and therefore I won't generalize things but to a great extent metalheads are cool.

We are sweet, kind people.

I'm not asking you to like metal music. Everyone has different taste of music and it's okay if you don't like it. I'd only suggest you to have an open mind and experience yourself before judging or labeling anyone. You'll be surprised.

Peace out.


I like being alone, 
listening to the music in my own world, 
away from all the bullshit, 
in life. 

Saturday, June 18, 2016

Depression: The Infographic

June 18, 2016 3 Comments





Just a small, fun project, with an aim of #SpreadingAwareness. I hope you find it informative. Help spread the information. Check out the "you may also like" section at the bottom of this post for more depression related posts. Also some amazing facts about depression can be found at this link.




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Saturday, June 4, 2016

Most Annoying Things People Post On the Internet

June 04, 2016 2 Comments


Internet is, well, huge. It can be a lot of things, starting from useful to entertaining to scary to annoying! The thing that makes internet annoying is that it gives us the freedom of expression. Who knew one day one of our basic rights will annoy us. Probably no one thought this could happen when they were including freedom of speech to the basic human rights section. And I'm sure I'm not the only one who saw something on the internet and immediately thought "get off my page!".

Here are few of those kind of posts:

1. "Like this photo and Facebook will donate $1 per like to the 'cachexic child' on the photo": 



Seen anything like this before? Maybe on Facebook? I can feel you, already.

Now honestly I find it very rude that people use the pictures of children who are suffering from bizarre things like starvation, just to get likes! It's inhumane! What do people think huh? "Ooh, you can count the ribs on that that child. COOOOOL. Great picture to get likes and shares from emotional twits." Seriously people? They have actual problems. Leave them alone!

That poor kid from Africa doesn't even know that he is internet famous, and that too for a completely selfish reason. They are viral, millions of people have seen their pictures expressing their condition, yet I wonder how many helps they have actually received because of it.

And since when Facebook hired you to promote their charity? Mark Zuckerberg can hire professionals to do that. And if he ever start a campaign, he would send a promoted ad on your page to see it. Facebook most definitely wouldn't ask for "likes" to get them motivated to donate.

Some other variations include: share if you love your mom, don't scroll down without saying "Amen" if you love Jesus etc. I once saw a post of a bald girl that stated that the girl in the picture has cancer, and asked Facebookers to pray for her. A few days later I found out that poor girl did not have cancer and someone stole that picture from her Facebook page and made that post. She shaved her head by her choice. She was so furious (for obvious reasons) I tell you.

Note: Now this is for the "emotional twits" I was taking about. I care about your emotions. Stop liking and sharing such posts! Do not encourage such posts that are making a joke about someone's misery. If you really want to help, volunteer or donate money for them. That would ACTUALLY help them. Because there's an old saying: Action Speaks Louder Than Words.

2. Stupid hoax:

Mixing of HIV positive blood in Coca Cola, Mark Zuckerberg giving away 4.5 millions away, a deadly bug with a lot of creepy holes on it who is suddenly biting people and killing them, cat with two legs walking around and even fake news about death of celebrities; all of these might be familiar to you.



Anything worse than lack of knowledge is wrong knowledge. I hate it when people post false information and we all internet users go crazy about it; well, we are curious beings. The thing I hate the most is seeing such things again and again on my page. I don't know why but my friends keep on sharing same thing again and again. I mean, why?! You are my friend and I love you but I hate what you share.

I don't know why they play with our feelings. I remember a few years ago when I saw a post (shared by my friend) on Facebook that stated Johnny Depp died in a car crash. I was so devastated. Literally! And then I Googled it and found out that it was total non-sense. Why? Why do you do this to us?!

The major drawback of internet is that no one is there to verify the information that is being posted, esp. on personal pages and personal websites. Internet is full of wrong information. Now again these are those likes and shares crazy people that you should totally ignore. Yes, control your right index finger and just scroll down, or at least Google it to verify. Any major news like a new disease or announcement from Mark Zuckerberg will be first covered by the actual news channels. Don't be blinded by such fools.



3. Nudity:

Okay, so I know there are certain places called porn websites where you can get plenty of nudity. That's fine because it doesn't bump into me randomly, anytime. They are there, IF you want to go there you can go, if not, they won't bother you. But I tell you Tumblr, Twitter and Facebook-- you need to control what's been posted! It's so irritating when a naked picture pops on the screen when it is the last thing I'm expecting.

It's actually very dangerous. Yes, dangerous. What if I'm operating Tumblr at home, huh? Without any warning a naked woman posing seductively is right there and obviously that is when my mom decides to come to see what her little girl is doing and what she sees? She sees bum bums on my screen! That's the reason I never operate Tumblr when I'm at home.

No, I'm not following such accounts that post such things on Tumblr or Twitter. But obviously I can't control if someone is horny and suddenly decides to post something I'm not ready to see.


4. Selfies or videos stating "I'm Ugly": 

Selfies are the new trend. And I hate it. I don't want to see your duck face. It looks stupid. It might sound rude, but it is. What is so attractive about duck face anyways? You making a face of duck, which is not even cute,  is a trend? I don't want to see that, I don't want to see you have an iPhone and a bathroom in your home. I don't!

And then there the ones who post a picture like...


.....and caption it as: "I'm so ugly, why god is so unfair", or "I'm so ugly, but I don't care".

Bitch please!

And the girls who post such pictures are the ones who are really pretty. You want to be called pretty? Say that! Don't led the public think that you have low self-esteem issues, which you clearly don't. You're picture is screaming that you're confident enough that the picture is really good that's why you posted it in the first place.

Also, you can find a lot of YouTube video where girls are saying "what it's like to be an ugly friend/girl". Maybe you have issues. Actually, you have. It's called lack of self-worth. Learn it, for good.

The other ones are those who post their selfies and write an inspirational quote in the caption. Dear girl/boy, your face is not going to inspire me in any way. Stop quoting your picture irrelevantly.

Honestly, the things that are trending these days make me put a question mark on the future of humanity.




5. Click-bait: 

Oh, I hate this one. These are the links that I can't resist to click, even though I know that it's a click bait.

People post things like "amazing people you won't believe existed" or "you won't believe what this guy just did". And it's fine if your content is relevant to the heading of your post. I like to read exciting new things. But the content always explodes my brain. It's like: the link says "you won't believe what this newborn did" and when you click the link the article says "he pooped in his diaper". It's so annoying.



So, these are the type of posts that annoy me the most. Share with us the type of posts that annoy you in the comment section. Have a great day!

Saturday, May 28, 2016

What Not To Say To Someone Who Is Depressed

May 28, 2016 3 Comments



1. "Just get over it."
2. "Just try to be happy."
3. "What you went through wasn't that bad".
4. "Other people are going through a lot worse."
5. "You are depressed? But you're so happy?"
6. "I'm tired of hearing about it."
7. "Don't go for therapies and drugs. They don't work."
8. "Stop being so negative all the time."
9. "You just need to go out and you'll be fine."
10. "Stop the self-pity."
11. "Stop being so selfish.
12. "You'll feel better tomorrow."
13. "Life is not fair. You have to deal with it."
14. "Life goes on. You need to move on."
15. "What are you even depressed about?"
16. "Stop feeling sorry for yourself."
17. "Everyone is dealing with their lives. Why can't you?"
18. "You are too sensitive."
19. "Cheer up."
20. "Be grateful for what you have."
21. "You should try harder."
22. "You are strong. You'll be fine."
23. "You need a make-over."
24. "Stop complaining all the time."
25. "It's all in your mind."
26. "Happiness is a choice."
27. "I know how it feels. I once was depressed for several days."
28. "Have you got your PMS?"
29. "Try praying. You'll feel better."
30. "Nobody is responsible for your depression. You chose to be depressed."
31. "You don't like feeling that way? Change it then."
32. "What's your problem?"

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Tuesday, May 24, 2016

How Do People See Depressed People?

May 24, 2016 2 Comments


Depression is not so uncommon term. All of us have heard of it, some of us have suffered from it, and some others are suffering from it right now.

There are a lot of reasons why depression is so common these days, which ranges from the pressures that we suffer in this modern world to the food we eat. Also, advancement in the field of medicine has lead to a better diagnosis; hence we can see an increase in number of cases.

Here's an articles that has some facts about depression: Lesser known facts about depression

It's mentioned in this article that about 80% of those suffering from depression don't even go to see a doctor. 80%! Do you know what this statistic means? It means that a huge deal of people suffer in silence. Which is just awful and should not happen. But you can't blame depressed people for not being open about their condition. Why you ask? Because our society sucks! We suck! Okay, okay. I won't generalize and won't exaggerate but you can't help but agree that not a lot of people around us are supportive.

According to that research (that I came across in Psychology Today's website) people rather like to say that they feel overwhelmed, their sleep was restless, they had poor appetite and everything is an effort, than to admit that they're depressed. These are all classic psychosomatic symptoms of depression.

People don't like to admit that they're depressed because they fear of being judged and being "labelled" as depressed. And why is that? Because our society sees depressed people differently.

What do people think about depressed people?





A lot of people don't even consider depression as an illness. They think that it's just sadness, and that people can easily get over it if they try to smile, and try to be happy. But for someone who is depressed, it's a lot more difficult than it sounds. If they could just do that, they would. Who likes to feel like shit about themselves? And if they could, depression wouldn't be recognized by medical sciences as a mental illness.

The second thing is, people think that those who are depressed are too "weak". In reality, depression has nothing to do with whether you are strong or weak. It has no boundaries. And it can develop in "strong" people as well. Depression originates when some of your concerns starts to impact you negatively; which can happen to anyone. Depression can occur in the most mentally strong, ambitious and confident person out there. It has no relationship with age, gender or your personality. Mental strength and mental health are two entirely different things. In fact, if you're living with depression, chances are that you're mentally stronger than others.

Thirdly, depressed people are seen as an attention seeker. When a person is open about his condition people think that person is being melodramatic and only needs attention, and that they need to get over themselves. Such a ridiculous thing to say to someone who is suffering from depression. I'm not talking about those who fake but real depression causes irritability. What else do you expect from someone who is totally lost? Someone who can't figure out what to do to ease the pain they are going through? If we can express our happiness, why can't we express our sadness? And since when expressing your feelings became a taboo?

This is the reason why people don't speak up about their condition because they know they won't get any help and at the end of the day, they will be judged and tagged as someone who is "weak".

What it feels like to be depressed?


Now let's see in brief what depression actually "feels" like, in contrast of what other people think. 



......and no, depression is NOT only these 4 feelings. Different people will describe their feelings differently. These are the "feelings", NOT the symptoms. Some people also feel "numbness"; a total lack of feelings. They don't feel sad about the sad things and don't get that happy feeling on getting a good news. Every feeling is the same.....numb. They lose their interest and motivation in life. A lot of people also suffer from mood-swings.

And what do depressed people think? Everything negative! They can't quit thinking about it. They try to sleep at night hoping that they will forget about their thoughts in the morning, but then the same thing pops up in their mind as soon as they wake up. And no...it's not easy to get over it. Because it's depression, not just "sadness".

Depression is not as easy as it seems. And it's definitely not "another blue day". Depression is much more than what people think. It is an issue of concern because it's actually quite common than you think and the statistics are only increasing. Maybe your sibling is suffering from it right now and you just keep on dismissing the idea by thinking that she's just sad.

In the coming few posts I'll be discussing depression a bit more. I hope you find it useful. Share your experience with all of us. Your suggestions and requests are welcomed. Leave your message on the comment section or in the "write to me" section on the right hand side.

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Saturday, May 14, 2016

Fat? Who Me? Have you ever been fat shamed?

May 14, 2016 4 Comments
I was in a forum the other day and one guy mentioned about how one of his friends got body shamed by two total strangers in public. For obvious reasons she got upset and cried. 

Body shaming is defined as inappropriate negative statements and attitudes toward another person's weight or size. Or you can simply say shaming someone for their body type.

Really? People should be ashamed of what size they are?

And who gets to decide the standards that we use as the "ideal ones"?

The best thing about human beings is that we keep on advancing on everything, whether be in the field of medicine or technology, and even body shaming. Body shaming is no longer limited to shaming overweight/obese people. There are a variety of body shaming. For instance, female athletes are now being muscle shamed! Thin people get shamed for being too "skinny". Body builder men get shamed for having too much muscle. And then we have the dad bod shaming; the type which is not overweight but not too fit either. Vin Diesel was recently put in the category of "dad bod"! Yeah, that's right. I must say, we're truly evolving! Still wondering what the ideal body type is, btw, because it seems every body type is being body shamed.

And what do get by body shaming others? Do we try to fit in a group? Or try to feel good about ourselves? In my opinion, any group that masters in activities like body shaming is totally a shitty group. Get the hell away from them! And if you do it to feel good about yourself, then dude, first of all, you're a douche, and second of all, spend the time you waste on judging people on developing your qualities. That way you'll actually be a better person.

I read somewhere that obese people are more depressed, lack self-worth, have no self control and suffer from more emotional ups and downs. Well, of course a person will suffer from all these things if they're being bombarded with negative comments all the time! Duh! I would. You would. Anyone would! We're just humans.
Have you ever been fat shamed?

Obese people get bullied all the time. We don't need researches done to prove that. It's so common that we all must have seen that happening around us, or with us if you were or are an obese/overweight/chubby person. Kids can be mean, and so can adults.

Our habit of assuming things sucks!


Assuming things about others is one major problem why obese people have to through a lot of difficulties. According to a research, people "think" that fat people are lazy, socially awkward and unclean. People were shown 5 pictures of 5 different models. Thin people were perceived to be attractive, independent, intelligent, friendly and likable. On the other hand obese people got negatively rated on 9 out of 15 traits. It has also been found that women who were 13 pound overweight were earning $9000 less than average-weight women. And very heavy weight women earned $19000 less! That's a huge amount. And let me mention, the researchers had clearly mentioned that it has nothing to do with education level. Apparently, the employers also try to hide obese employees, when it comes meeting with people/clients. To me, it's kind of indirect body shaming.

It's funny how we assume things about others without even knowing them. And it's ridiculous how people think that bigger body size equals less talent.

I've met some really amazing overweight/obese people. They are the most confident people ever, have the best sense of humor and they make amazing friends. You gotta be polite with people and give them a chance to show you who they really are. You'll be amazed a lot of the time.

Social media's giving us complex too!


Social media is another bitch. Too many people showing off their bum bums on the internet! We buy whatever social media tells us is right and we don't even once question it, especially the teens. Tumblr and Instagram is full of people with "perfect bodies". Seriously. And I'd be lying if I say I never felt insecure after seeing something on the internet.  It's great you have a nice body and since it's yours, you can totally show it off the way you like. It is also okay to feel insecure; that's human nature. But while admiring other people's perfect bosom, we shouldn't underestimate our own package. Your chubby body might be goals for someone else. You never know. Not everyone dreams to be a zero figure.

I've been an overweight my whole life. I've been called fat and I was the fat kid of my class. But to be honest (and I'm not just saying it), I never felt bad about myself for that reason. And really that's no reason to be ashamed of. I did lose a lot of weight when I left for college and started living in hostel. Anyone who has ever lived in a hostel will know what I'm talking about. But I still am chubby. And I love it! Twisted? Nah, not to me! I rather be chubby than skinny. Being an overweight was never a drawback to me, and it still isn't.


Now, of course, I believe that everyone should eat healthy and do some amount of exercise to stay healthy. Of course there are some health related drawbacks that comes with high level of body fat. You want to lose weight and be more healthy? Do it. But do it for yourself; not because your boyfriend asked you to.


My letters:


My letter to all the awesome chubby people out there:

Dear chubby people, 

You don't have to be the sad panda here! There's nothing to be ashamed of. You don't have to feel bad about yourself. What you need to do is, in fact, first of all, get rid of the people who don't treat you with love and doesn't support you. If your boyfriend tells you to lose weight, honey, you need a new boyfriend. If your friends make fun of you all the time, lose them. Do it. For the sake of your health. 

Number two: Fat is NOT equal to ugly. Believe me. 

Number three: Don't be sorry for who you are. Make it very clear to everyone around you. This is you and you should love yourself.

Number four: Show people you're more than just a body. Don't try to hide in the shell you created to protect yourself from the bullies. Like I've mentioned already, I've met some really awesome overweight people in my life (I myself am one, *winks*).  Show people what an amazing person you are through your personality. Make them see what you have to offer, and what they were missing being ignorant, by being yourself. Don't care what others will think and don't let anyone break down your confidence. 

And remember, self-worth does not comes from your dress size. 

We can never be perfect for everyone. No matter how good you look or how amazing your personality is, people will always try to belittle you. Try not give an "eff" about it! 

Be proud of your thunder thighs! 

If someone calls you a "dad bod", tell them that's the category Vin Diesel belongs to too! 

And if someone calls you fat, tell them kiss your fat ass! 

Love,
Quirky Writes

My letter to all the body shamers:


Dear Body Shamers

Back off!

Sincerely,
Quirky Writes

Remember, the ideal body for you is the body you're in right now. Cherish it.

And another thing is, we can achieve so much by being ourselves. All we have to do is accept ourselves for who we are and go from there. Haters don't even matter, honeybun.

We got to stop being judgmental about others if we want to make this world a better place.

And by the way, do you know how Gabourey Sidibe responded to all the body shaming comments she got for her 2014 Golden Globes? She said: "I most definitely cried about it on that private jet on my way to my dream job last night". That's how you deal with the haters like a boss!

So, have you ever been fat shamed? Or have you ever body shamed someone? Don't worry we won't be judgmental. Everyone has a past!

Tuesday, May 3, 2016

How To Fail At Everything

May 03, 2016 8 Comments

This is the ultimate guide on "How to fail at everything"; be it your work or your relationships. So let's get started, shall we?

Relax. You don't have to do much. It's very easy. All you have to do is follow these 3 easy things.


1. Blame others for all your problems:

Yes, that's right. You are not responsible for your failure.  It is not your lazy ass that's responsible for your incomplete work. No, no, no. It's not. It's Susan who called you and asked you to go out with her. You failed in the exam? It was your teacher's fault who didn't give you enough marks. She for sure holds some grudge on you. You beat the hell out of someone? Well, I'm sure that person didn't even try to understand you. You cheated on your husband because he's doing overtime since last month? You go girl! So what if he's trying to pay the bills? He totally ignored you for a month. He deserves that! It's not your mistake, hell no!


2. Complain about everything: 

Yes. Complain. How your life sucks at everything. Complain about how life never offered you the best and how your life was never fair to you. Complain about how your parents always loved your other sibling(s) more and how they never cared or loved you. Complain about how a McDonald's worker forgot to give you sauce. Complain about how you are sick from past 1 week. Complain how ugly you are or how fat you are. Complain about your low paying job. Complain how awful relationships you had been in and how awful people generally are. It's not like you can do anything about it, now is it? Keep on complaining.

3. Not be grateful: 

Wanted an iPad Air for Christmas but got an iPad Mini? Ugh! Parents! How could they do that to you? Your friend gives you a ride everyday in his car but his stupid air conditioner doesn't even work? Really? You gotta find new friends buddy! You were unemployed and now stuck at a low paying job? That sucks! You didn't get the best birthday presents? Ugh! Life's such a bitch. When people will understand your needs?! People should do things to make you happy. It is their duty to do things for you!
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Oh, you were here for the "positive talk"?   
In that case, I guess if you're smart enough to operate the internet and reach this post, you can now figure out how not to fail at everything.