Monday, December 26, 2016

# life # self development

Do you care what others think about you? Well, I've got reasons why you shouldn't



All those who are guilty of not doing something they love or want to do just because they were scared of what others will think raise your hand. Okay, don't lie to yourself, I know you're as guilty as I am.
For me- however- that's the past, thankfully, but what about you? Do you still give a shit what others think about you? If you do then, my next question is simple: why?
Why does what others think about us bother us? And that too so much that we're willing to sacrifice our happiness? Is it really worth it? 


This fear of not receiving approval from others has been passed down to us from our ancestors. Back in the days when people used to live among wild animals, the tribe was the other name of survival. The better "behaved" you are, the better would be your position in the tribe. So, yeah, they cared what others think about them for their better survival. They had valid reason.
But it's not the case anymore because we all know who's more dangerous to whom, and who's causing whose extinction. So I think there's no need to be scared of the wild animals anymore. But unfortunately the same belief that "we should care about what others think" has been passed down to us. I guess we forgot to evolve our thinking. 

1. This life is way too short to care what others think:

Cliché quote but it's true. If you'll keep on worrying about what others think you'll never be able to do anything that you really want to do. Remember that bucket list you made? All the crazy stuff you wanna do? You'll never be able to put that check mark in front of your desire in the list if you'll think that people will call you crazy. You'll never find out what you're capable of. You'll never find out how much you can improve and what you can achieve. We've got one life and we better make it wonderful by living it the way we want to, because in the end, you don't want to be left alone with regrets. Do you?

Besides, do you have any idea how many more people will look up to you for inspiration, once you start? Why not focus on such people? Those who act don't think about what other people's opinion about them are. They just act.

2. Others don't know what you want:

People might tell you things like do this or do that, or don't do this or don't do that. Maybe it's right from their point of view. But they don't know the whole back story. Their perception is based on the superficial things they saw. And a lot of the times their "perception" is false, because -- they don't know the whole back story.

No one, other than you, knows your situation; how you feel, what you need to do, how certain things are affecting you, and hence, they for sure do not know what's good for you. So if someone is being judgmental about any of your decisions, well, it's not your problem. You did what was best for you.

3. You can't please everyone:

Another cliché sentence but again, it's true. Just think and tell: Can you? No you can't. 

There are people who are "pathologically judgmental" who will judge you in the most negative way possible no matter what you do. Their opinion is not honest or fruitful at all, because they are, in general, very negative beings. I think even flowers don't bloom in their yard, because their negativity is killing them.

Then there are the envious people who themselves don't do anything because they're too lazy to start (or just too worried about what other's will think 😉) and don't want to see others do something either. They don't want you to fulfill your desires as they couldn't themselves. 

The third kind of people are the ones who accidentally get hurt in the process of achieving something. Don't worry about them either. They are selfish, and don't care about you anyway.

The last group is the one who love and support you. Think about these people because they are the only ones you should be caring about. They will guide you in the right direction.

Besides, what is the worst thing possible that will happen? A few people will talk about it for some time and then they'll get a new topic to gossip about. That's about it. That's what happens. They are killing their time in doing useless gossips; that's their damage. What's the damage for you? Nothing!

4. People don't care:

This is what mostly happens. People simply don't care what you're doing. Most of the times it's our own fear of "being watched by others" what stops us. Well, let me tell you something, people have got better things to do in their own lives than to sit and watch what you are doing. They all have pretty busy lives. So just chill, go ahead and do the crazy. Nobody's watching. And so what even if they were!? They're too busy with their iphones to react anyway!




1. Don't let the thought that "someone is watching and judging me right now" cross you mind. Just think even if someone is watching me so what? Let them watch. I ain't got no time and energy to know what they're thinking about me.

2. You don't need to give a justification for your actions to others. You did it because it's good for you. Period.

3. Make a good habit of not judging others. The idea is simple: if you'll keep on judging others, the thought of someone else judging you will definitely cross your mind; because that's what you're doing so why can't someone else do that to you. So, STOP!

4. Cut off all the negatives.Stay away from all those crappy people; whether a friend or family, who always try to pull you down. Just know one thing that such people do not want you to achieve things.

5. And lastly, if people say things like "you suck", I have only two words for them: Screw them!


Why would you stop caring what others say? The answers is simple: to be happy. Need I say more? Isn't that a big enough reason? If you wanna be happy, don't give a damn. It is as simple as that!
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 I don't care what you think about me. I don't think about you at all.  -Coco Chanel

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